By Dr. Don Dunlap
Pastoral Counselor
Learn how God expects us to respond in the midst of life situations that arouse anger within us.
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In the Bible, God addresses many specific arenas of a
Christians life, and He speaks clearly about the type of conduct that He
expects from His children. Our heavenly Father does not permit us to respond
angrily in any of the following circumstances:
1. Our
enemies: When we are tempted to give in to angry outbursts toward our
enemies we must remember Gods command to do kind deeds for those people who
persecute us. We should look for ways to meet our enemies needs and we are to
demonstrate Gods unconditional love toward them.
2. Civil
authorities: We ought to obey them and give to them their due, unless their
demands contradict Gods Word. Such a demand would force us to sin, which we
cannot do. Then we must obey the Lord, rather than man and we must beseech God
for the grace to bear whatever consequences our authorities may require us to
face.
3. Unreasonable
employer: Gods Word commands us to submit to an employer, except when
doing so would cause us to disobey Scripture. It is never appropriate for a
Christian to speak angrily or disloyally about his supervisor, regardless of
how harsh or unfair he or she may be.
4. Trials
and difficult circumstances: We must trust God and be content. Our job is
to cooperate with God and to respond joyfully as He develops Christ-like
character in our lives.
5. Fellow
Believers who are caught in sin: We are to speak the truth in love to them,
with the goal of restoring them. God explains that we should rebuke them gently
and not regard them as outcasts. We ought to plead with them to repent and in a
loving spirit, hold them accountable.
6. Parents:
Children must honor their parents as they honor the Lord. As long as
parents are in biblical authority over children, children should respect and
obey them in a manner that pleases God. It is sinful and disrespectful for
children to express angry attitudes toward parents.
7. Unjust
treatment: We find favor with God when we bear up under unjust treatment
and patiently endure it without angrily murmuring or complaining.
8. Our
children: God warns us not to provoke our children to wrath. Parents must
resist the temptation to rebuke them angrily when they disobey. Instead,
parents should nurture and train them in the discipline and instruction of the
Lord.
9. Husbands
and wives: Marriage partners are to submit to one another and to love each
other in a consistently biblical manner. We often take the liberty to express anger
and hostility toward our spouse. We punish one another by pouting and
withdrawing our affection from each other. We should repent of such sinfully
destructive behavior. We ought to take very soberly Gods command in Ephesians
4, not to let the sun go down on our wrath.
10. Biblically
qualified church leaders: We should obey them and trust their wisdom. If we
esteem them highly in love, as Scripture commands, we do not rail against them
or act unbecomingly toward them when we disagree with their leadership or their
judgment. Instead we pray earnestly for them as they lead us spiritually.
As we learn to respond properly in these specific scriptural
situations, we begin to grow in our ability to overcome sinful anger.
Dr. Don
Dunlap, a pioneer in the placement of Pastoral Counselors in the offices of
Christian physicians, has conducted over twenty thousand appointments during
his ministerial career. His counseling practice includes adults, children and
families in crisis. Dr. Dunlap is committed to facilitating a network of
telephone counselors. His goal is to provide help for the many people unable to
meet face to face with a competent Bible-based counselor. For a complete
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